Baby Shower Power!

 “No one says, while unwrapping a Tiffany rattle, that during those first weeks, you will feel like you’re drowning in an abyss, or that you will eat like a woman possessed; or that there’s never anything to wear; or that you can’t sleep when you want to; or that visitors come when they shouldn’t. Not to mention the trauma of expressing, nipple thrush, haemorrhoids and depression”.

There is a notion that most baby shower gatherings don’t achieve what they are meant to – the realities of motherhood are skipped over. It’s not surprising really given the somewhat gruesome details that could be shared whilst having tea and cake! Should baby showers really be about sharing all this useful but rather scary information? It does sound worse than it actually is and for some it really isn’t half as bad as expected. Who are you to tell a mum-to-be that she’s going to get depression, nipple thrush and goodness knows what else – your experiences could be totally different.

A baby shower should be a girlie event (most men would agree), a gathering of the nearest and dearest to have a giggle and offer support before baby arrives. There needn’t be a structure; there needn’t even be presents (shock, horror!).

It’s about creating a support network so mum-to-be knows who she can call on if she needs a helping hand or simply a chat over the phone. A sneaky game or two could be added to get a few giggles going but nothing too over the top or blatantly tacky. Woefully embarrassing games put the fear in to your guests so simply avoid them. Baby trivia is a good one to play and can bring out some surprising facts for discussion – a great ice breaker if some guests don’t know each other.

Most importantly just relax. There is no format – it’s not a wedding. It’s all about the mum-to-be and getting the girls together – perhaps for the last time in a little while!

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How to Have a UK Baby Shower by Ally Atkins

The word ‘baby shower’ generates a fairly specific set of images to many people.  To some it involves an afternoon filled with over-the-top themed decorations, themed food, themed games and baby-talk. This is the legacy of the stereotypical American baby shower.

My own insight and one that suits us rather self-aware Brits is to curb the over-the-top themed décor – we all know less is more. Get a gaggle of girlfriends together and indulge in an afternoon of delicious finger foods, champagne, alcohol free cocktails, laughter in abundance and plenty of advice for mummy-to-be.

My personal notion of what a baby shower should be about came after the birth of my first daughter. I’d always had the American stereotype in mind and didn’t consider organising such an event for myself.

However, after having my daughter and finding my life turned upside down and back-to-front, I did feel there should be a more ‘British’ way for ladies to celebrate such a life-changing event. A baby shower is, after all, a celebration – of the mother as much as the baby. It’s akin to a hen night but with less alcohol – a rallying of the troops, all the girls together with tips and advice about what is in store.

Becoming pregnant has to be the most life-changing event of all. While we’re familiar with celebrating the key birthdays, engagements, marriages, retirements and even divorces, pregnancy isn’t usually on the radar. In Britain we have gatherings once the baby arrives so all friends and relatives have the chance to have a peek and pass on messages of congratulations. However, this focus is on the arrival of the baby. What about the mum?

Baby showers are fun! They all have that in common but, rather than focusing on over-the-top themes and embarrassing games, move the emphasis to showing mummy-to-be she has a support network and give all the tips and advice you can think of!  Make a fuss of her, it’s all going to be about the child(ren) from here on in! Perhaps we should call it a ‘Mummy Shower!’

So, how do you go about it? Decorations are important but think about the pregnant mother’s tastes – vintage tableware is becoming very popular along with a few baby themed balloons and the odd banner or pieces of bunting adorning the walls. Mix flowers, butterflies, pastel colours and shabby chic in with the baby theme. This breaks it up and creates a well-designed party space to get the girls together. The Ultimate Baby Shower doesn’t just focus on the well-known baby themes, I’ve purposefully sourced a wide range of elegant girlie themes to mix and match to create a stylish room(s).

Games don’t need to be the sole focus and they certainly don’t need to be woefully embarrassing – as so many are. Baby trivia is a great ice breaker to encourage guests to mingle and laugh together; another popular one we have sourced involves baby scan photos and a list of baby parts to identify – much harder than you may imagine. Perhaps the most important is the advice cards. Every new mummy should have a set of advice cards from her close friends / relatives. They are there to look at at any time and some favours to call in would never go amiss….

Delicious food – canapés, a buffet or the ever-popular afternoon tea – is important and provides a natural break. Champagne and / or alcohol free cocktails create a refined table setting. Put out all the favours (thank you gifts) for guests to see and admire before they take them home. We have a huge range of beautifully designed favours and receive fabulous feedback regarding their impact – definitely worth a look.

What about the gifts? A stereotypical baby shower does tend to have too much emphasis on the gifts, which can be off-putting. Many people prefer to give the gifts after baby has arrived and this tends to suit us more superstitious Brits. If this is preferred then put a note on the invitation that you’re having a ‘mummy shower’ and gifts are not necessary. Saying that though, some parents-to-be do need help preparing for a new baby. In this case it may be a good idea to create a gift list, which we offer at The Ultimate Baby Shower. It doesn’t need to involve hugely expensive items but getting the essentials together before baby arrives can be a great start. We offer a wealth of advice to help putting these lists together.

Finally, to the guests – I’ve read a number of articles lately about men being invited to baby showers and the fact that couples baby showers are becoming the in-thing. I have to say I disagree with that, and judging by the comments on Twitter I’d say the men are not too keen either. It is customary for the new dad to wet the baby’s head after the birth and celebrate with his friends in that way. The baby shower is about celebrating the mum and nobody can do this better than her girlfriends.  It’s about creating a support network, which will be there long after the little addition arrives.

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